Being Balanced in Chaos

When we’re hit with uncertainty either suddenly or in large amounts, it can throw us off. We can get frustrated, overwhelmed, stressed, or discouraged. This is normal and there’s nothing wrong with it. However, it’s my belief that we can train ourselves to stay more balanced when things get chaotic, and stay level-headed and calm, which allows us to become an oasis of sanity that others can rely on.

Let’s talk about how to train ourselves to stay more in balance when things get chaotic.

In a sentence: be with everything in your experience, with an attitude of relaxed appreciation.

If you’re sitting outside on a beautiful day, you can be with that experience, and relax with it, fully appreciating it.

If during your day you get thrown off and feel overwhelmed or frustrated, this isn’t a problem — be with that feeling, as you would with any experience. You can bring relaxed appreciation to the thunderstorm of your overwhelm or frustration.

Try it now. Be with this moment fully, with relaxed appreciation. It’s always available to you — it’s wonder at the miracle of this moment. It’s a willingness to be with all experiences, no matter how pleasant or unpleasant, comfortable or uncertain.

It’s finding curiosity and love in each moment and finding true appreciation for all of life.

How to Train

This won’t come naturally to most of us. So we can train.

Here’s what I recommend:

Keep this practice front of mind with some kind of mantra or reminder. I like to write it out on a note that I see often, put it on my phone lock screen, and have a couple of reminders pop up.

No matter what is going on, see if you can find a moment of relaxed appreciation and be with the experience fully.

When you feel some kind of emotion, be with that fully, and see if you can bring relaxed appreciation.

When you get thrown off of this practice, be full with the result of that.

Do a 2-minute review at the end of each day to see how it went. This will deepen your learning and help you remember to practice the next day.

What would it be like for you, to be more balanced when things get uncertain, chaotic, and messy? To be full with all of life, and to appreciate each moment for whatever it brings?

All my love,

Theresa Falvey-Hunt

Life Coach|Way Maker