People pleasing in Grief
Are you giving yourself permission to consider your needs, as much as you consider others needs?
People pleasing is something I come across not just in the clients I work with but many s humans struggle with this.
It’s putting others needs constantly before your own. Although many think it’s what you ‘should’ do as a human, I’m going to share that it’s not really the healthy way to Be, especially in Grief.
Through out all of my trainings and I mean all of them, they all share the same belief and I think you have heard this message before: You need to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others.
It’s the truth.
If you do not tend to yourself, making sure you are nurturing your mind, body and soul you will begin to feel or maybe already feel: low energy/tired, unhappy, unfulfilled, just existing/struggling, weight gain, digestive issues and many more that I haven’t mentioned.
Especially when moving through Grief, you must do You. If something makes you exhuasted or triggers you just thinking about it, Don’t Do IT. If you find yourself staying at home more, nesting, It’s OK.
Saying ‘No’ or ‘No Thank You’ to an outing or event or something you don’t want to do is actually SAYING YES to you! It’s empowering to now that you can do this for You. Advocate for yourself because no one else is going to.
The more you do practice ‘No Thank You’ the more it will become easier.
PS: No is a complete sentence;) You do not owe anyone an explaination or reasoning.
I love you.
I am right there with you practicin my ‘No Thank You’s’ and honestly it feels really good putting my needs and wants first. I feel more peace, energy for my every day and I just love being kind to myself. I deserve it. I’ve been through some shit.
You deserve it.
You got this.
I practice this with my Coaching clients all the time. We work on this together, as I mentioned some people are deep in their People Pleasing Habits.
But Habits can be shifted and you can begin to start to put yourself first. It can and will start to feel good to take the time for you. You will come to see it is necessary.
Private Message me if you are ready to begin the journey of Living and Being in a more embodied, empowered way.
I see You,
I hear You,
I love You.