The “Is-ness” Theory
Something I have been playing with for awhile now is the meaning or no meaning I put on something.
There is so much power when we put meaning on something.
This can empower or disempower us.
The book “The Courage to be Disliked” speaks on this as well, on not attaching meaning to anything and simply practicing not attachment to a thing. This can feel like a challenging one to process in the brain and it’s possible to bring yourself to freedom and clarity. Your mind has been working a certain way for some time, it takes time to re-wire for different.
The good news, our brains our neuroplastic, which means it can re-wire for different!
I am noticing more and more in the world we are in these day’s, there is a lot of fear. People are getting triggered left and right. We are more reactive than responsive.
Why? Our nervous system’s are running on the fight/flight/freeze response.
You are not operating from an optimal way of Being.
Your body is most likely running on fumes, tired, exhaustion, frustration, anger, fear, worry and so on….
No wonder you feel like shit.
How can joy flourish here?
Yet we all have seen the picture of the flower that is still able to grow up through the crack in the concrete.
How do we empower ourselves?
There are so many way’s and today I want to have you focus your attention on your thoughts and how you are making meaning out of everything.
EVERYTHING
Over the weekend, our kitchen sink clogged. Yep super inconvenient. I could have went into the anger, frustration, why me mode…..I didn’t.
I caught myself because spiraling down the gloom and doom bunny hole, leaves me feeling always like shit in the end.
I reminded myself, I get to make meaning out of this situation. What if this just is? No right or wrong, it just is.
The pipes are clogged, we did what we could to unclog and then the next move was to call a plumber. Thank God we have people that specialize in this because this is not my husband’s or my wheel house. We are good at helping people get unclogged mind+body, not so much kitchen pipes! HA!
So the news is “we have clogged pipes” and it get’s to be just that, news. Nothing more, nothing less.
There is no extra energy attached to it and now you can continue on your day with your energy intact.
You can feel empowered to know you did what you could up to that point and now it’s time to ask for help because we are not equipped with all the tools.
So how can you apply this “Is-ness Theory” to the next time you get some unexpected “news” of any sort and I mean ANY.
How can you apply this the next time your car check engine light goes on, the refrigerator dies over night, the washing machine stops working mid-cycle all the clothes swimming in the water, more red lights than green lights on your way to work, the diagnosis……..
The power is within you.
I challenge you to get courageous and empower yourself to choose how you make meaning of it all.
By choosing better meaning or no meaning at all, you are creating a way of Being that is more peaceful, joyful, expansive, healing, a healthy nervous system and more happiness.
And THEN watch as your outer world adjusts to match what is being transformed within you!
It’s so good. It all begins with You. Within You. And it’s possible.
I love you,
I see you,
Be blessed,
Theresa